I often get asked: If I could teach my students/children 1 key positive habit what should that be?
With out doubt that 1 key positive habit is POSITIVE REFLECTION.
Why Positive Reflection?
Using brain scans a number of scientists have shown that reflecting on the positive things – rather than dwelling on the negative things that happen – can actually have a big effect on how your brain works on the inside.
Their studies show that when people spend time reflecting or meditating on a positive experience, their brains actually start opening new pathways and re-wiring themselves. Sounds unbelievable right?
Well it’s true. Regular positive reflection can physically change the way your brain works and can over time lower stress, help you sleep better, improve your health and help turn depression and anxiety around.
The other thing to know is that doing it with other people increases the benefits – so everyone feels good and the good feelings last longer. Another win-win!
So spend a few minutes each day – alone or in a group – thinking about something good that happened to you recently, and let your brain do the rest.
How to Teach Positive Reflection?
Teaching students/children to reflect on positives is relatively simple. The key is to provide opportunity for children to reflect on the positives on a daily basis. Take note. That is on a daily basis. To turn positive reflection into a habit is simple. You will ask your students/children questions, so why not ask them questions that allow them to focus on positives? For example:
Before bed or at the dinner table or in the car, ask:
- What went well for you today?
- What did you do today to help someone?
- What were you grateful for today?
Simple but very powerful questions.
Often we ask questions such as: How was your day? Answer. Good. And that is the end of the conversation. Why not ask questions that promote positive reflection? This kind of questioning is also very powerful in promoting optimism.
Not Just for Children
You maybe thinking “I could benefit from positive reflection”. Absolutely. Again, to develop a habit it requires consistency. In this case consistent positive reflection.
Tip: Keep a note pad and pen by your bed and before sleep wrote down 3 positives from your day and 3 ways you added value to someone that day. Or share verbally with your partner.
Developing the habit of positive reflection for yourself and your students/children is powerful. I would strongly recommend that you also develop the habit of asking questions that require people to focus on the positives. Together we can create a world of grateful, happy and positive people.
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